Depression, Anxiety

[Geeseman]

Originally Posted by solarite_guy

Interesting. My ex often thought I had a form of PTSD from my childhood. From the 1st grade to the end of 8th grade, the neighborhood we lived in was a very violent environment.

Funny, mum would tell me to ignore them. Yeah, right. Sorry mum.

The book details that PTSD can occur from many different types of abuse. It can be directly violent of emotional abuse, right down to neglect.
One aspect that reinforces the PTSD is when your parents or carer or significant people in your life fail to allow you to vent anger, sadness, complains and grieve over 'events' that cause PTSD, like your violent encounters. Responses like 'ignore them' don't help and make it worse. My mother told me to just 'get over it'.
It doesnt cost anything to comfort a child who has experienced trauma. When the child doesn't deal with the emotions of abuse they form into depression later in life. I think if some people are depressed about life they need help to deal with things from their past they haven't grieved about or vented about and they need to do it with someone who cares about their experiences.

[BENT_8]

Originally Posted by Geeseman

I think if some people are depressed about life they need help to deal with things from their past they haven't grieved about or vented about and they need to do it with someone who cares about their experiences.

Thats it in a nut shell with special consideration to the part in bold.

I think you will find this is the key to unlocking many people suffering depression, firstly admit you have a problem, identify the root causes from your life and most importantly, have someone who genuinely is interested in what you have/need to say, listen.
There is nothing more frustrating than ticking off the first two only to feel there is no one around you who is interested or has the time to listen and care.

My greatest dilemma was feeling the walls closing in on me and feeling alone because no one else noticed enough to enquire as to how i was travelling.
Communication is not one of my stronger qualities so i just let the frustration fester and before long i started to get desperate and thought of self harm to make people notice.

In hindsight, i dont blame the people around me, life is hectic and not everyone has the time to 'stop and smell the roses'. Truth is it was my own issues that were keeping me from reaching out and thankfully i made the connection before it was too late.

[solarite_guy]

Originally Posted by Geeseman

. My mother told me to just 'get over it'.
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I absolutely hated the "ignore them" comment. It was an absolute, non-starter.